"To be like the rock that the waves keep crashing over. It stands unmoved and the raging of the sea falls still around it." - Marcus Aurelius
There is nothing that I want more than to be calm and still,
I met a very interesting individual this past weekend,
The minute I sat down to engage, they were already finished with me, the attacks came like a loaded gun,
Almost like they prepared for me, mind you I am a stranger, this is our first date,
They called me horrible names, insults came left and right, assumptions were made,
The was no second that passed by without a scream or hit of "I am better than you" which is not true considering what unfolded,
Every heartbeat was an opportunity to say how much of a success they are without asking, qualifications and credentials were listed randomly. (I have a list of credentials and qualifications which I don't think matter much more especially in these times if we talk about self-worth build on valuable things like respect, honor, and independent thinking then we talking)
What infuriated my date more was that I did not do research about them before we met (more than 3 times they said "go do research about me), I don't know what they wanted me to see, perhaps they a mother of Jesus or something,
They claimed that they researched me so they already know the type of person I am, some of the assumptions referenced this, there was a point when I was asked "What do you do for a living?",
"I said nothing of great importance", yei, things escalated fast, "So you are a liar, how dare you come here and lie to me" aow, but you researched me, why ask me what I do if you did your research?
Marcus Aurelius said the best way to win or get better is not to be like your enemy or wrongdoer,
I had a choice to scream, shout and say back all the horrible things I wanted to say at that moment,
I so much wanted to express how I felt and what I truly thought, but I just remained still and took the blows with deep curiosity,
I mean what the f$5%k, this is a date, who hurt you. I could have packed up and left but my author and curiosity nature wanted to see how the evening will end,
I later realised that If I talked back I would probably feel horrible and become the scumbag I was called,
The attacks hurt me for a moment until I realised that those attacks had nothing to do with me,
None of what was said was me, or influence any of my life as I am today, so I let it go,
Ego, bathong! This human element drives people crazy, the need to be important and show it,
I swore to myself that no matter how much I am attacked, so long as there is no physical harm to me, I will remain calm and still,
Let the other person expose themselves, their weakness, thoughts, and whatever bullshit that goes on in their lives,
Truth is that there will always be more to the story, so fighting defense add nothing to myself and the other person,
They will probably feel like shit when they realise how stupid it was to lash out for no reason to a stranger or worse, they might not realise anything and end up in the grave with their bitter anger,
This was a date, first time meeting someone, but already there was a plan of attack, perhaps to me directly or to whoever plowed the fields before,
No matter what is said about or to you, stay calm and still, remember your strength, and let go of anything that does not build on your character and self-worth,
"The master of power understands that the appearance of superiority over others is inconsequential next to the reality of it." Robert Greene
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